Long Distance Relationship
Long Distance
Relationship
Many people say that long distance relationships stink.. It is true but there are also benefits of having a long distance
relationship. Today I want to encourage those who are in a long distance
relationship that it doesn’t always have to stink. There are things that
also good in a long distance relationship:
-You will not take that person for granted. You will value
each moment that you spend together. I remember when Austin
was here for 2 weeks, everyday felt so special. Even casual things such as
having lunch together, doing my work, going to church felt so special. (Writing
this makes me miss him so much..)
-It helps you to keep your purity. I don’t know about you,
but it is a struggle to almost every couple to remain pure while they’re
dating. When I say pure, it’s not only “not having sex before marriage”, but
it’s also anything close to that (Fondling, Caressing, etc). I always view long
distance relationships as a blessing in disguise (It is really a blessing
because it is so much harder when you live in the same city!). Austin and I
have the same love language. We both express our love by
spending our quality time together. By having a long distance relationship, we
always (or in this case, we can only) spend our quality time by talking over
the phone. We spend more time to get to know each other by communicating
instead of having physical touch.
-It helps you to be productive. When you live in the same
city, it is easy to get caught up in the relationship. You always want to spend
time with that person; you always want to do things together with that person.
I find this long distance relationship as a gift for me to be productive. Well,
there are times that I’m not productive because I miss him too much that I
can’t stop crying. But, most of the times I can focus on my work and ministry
because we live far away from each other. I don’t spend my Saturday nights
watching a movie at the theatre or hanging out at the mall with him. I spend my
Saturdays with my family or doing work or doing ministry.
-Last but not least, you become more dependent on Christ ! When you’re in a long distance relationship, you
can’t always run to that person every time you have a problem or when you’re
feeling sad. I find myself becoming more dependent on God and surrendered to
Him in this long distance relationship. Since we are separated by distance and
time, I can’t always talk to Austin whenever I need
comfort or counsel. Christ is the One and the first
place that I run to every time I’m feeling sad, tired or worried. Even if Austin
is around, I know that Christ should be the One that
I depend on. However, it is easy for me to try to seek for comfort from Austin
when he is around. I can easily be dependent on him instead of Christ .
So, this long distance relationship is a training ground for me to be dependent
on Christ and only Him. He is my all in all.
By saying all of the things above, it doesn’t mean that if you’re
not in a long distance relationship then you will take the person you’re dating
for granted or it is impossible for
you to keep yourself pure! No, not at all! This is just me giving
an encouragement to those who are in a long distance relationship that you can view
it in a different way. That
it doesn’t always have to sound so bad. I know it is not easy,
especially if you’ve done it for a long time.. But, it’s worth it (Well, depends
on who you’re dating! Haha. Of course it’s worth it if you’re dating the person
that is pleasing to God). The point is, be patient. Patience is not just the ability
to wait; it is also how you act while you’re waiting. I hope all those things above
can help you to have the right attitude while you’re waiting. For those who live
in the same city with your future spouse then don’t take them for granted. Be grateful
for them. Ask God’s grace to keep you pure. Stay productive. Keep relying on God.
Whatever kind of situation that your relationship is in right now, Always put Jesus at the center of your relationship!
Xoxo,
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